The true Compassion !!!

Once Buddha was in an assembly and a gentleman came to him. He was furious. He thought that Buddha was doing something wrong. He was attracting people and everybody had begun meditating. The people had become very calm and quiet. The gentleman was a restless businessman. He had found thrash his children were going and sitting wig Buddha and meditating for two hours every day. And he thought that if his children would be engaged in business, they could make more money and be better off. What would they get by sitting for two hours with somebody with their eyes closed? So he was angry and wanted to teach Buddha a lesson.
         
He walked up to Buddha but as soon as he came near him all his thoughts disappeared. But he was still shaking with anger and could not speak. No words would come out of his mouth. So he spat on Buddha's face. And Buddha just smiled. However, all the other disciples there became furious but could not react because Buddha was there. So, everybody restrained themselves.
         
The man could not stay any longer because he thought that if he stayed any longer, he would burst out. He went away. He could not sleep the whole night. For the first time in his life, he had met somebody who would just smile when he spat on his face. He began shivering. His world had turned topsy-turvy.
         
The next day he went to Buddha fell at his feet. He asked for forgiveness and said that he was not aware of what he had done. However, Buddha said that he could not forgive him. The disciples were shocked to hear this. Buddha was so compassionate and forgave everybody. How could he not forgive that person! But Buddha explained that the person had done nothing for which forgiveness was required. However, the person pointed out that he was the same person who had spat on Him the previous day. Then, Buddha said that, that person was not there anymore and, if he ever met him, he would forgive. Further x Buddha pointed out that the person had done no wrong to the man standing before him.
         
That is compassion.
         
Compassion is not making a person a culprit and then forgiving him. Your forgiveness should be such that the person who is being forgiven, does not even know that you are forgiving them. They should not even feel guilty for a mistake. That is the right type of forgiveness. If you make someone feel guilty about their mistake, then you have not forgiven them. That guilt itself is the punishment. It is good enough to eat the wrongdoer. Knowledge takes you away from guilt and puts you on a pedestal where you do not see the world at all. You do now see the world of the small mind and its chitchat. It appears insignificant.

PERSON HINDERING YOUR GROWTH IS DEAD

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written:
“Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral”.

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up.

Everyone thought: “Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!”

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: “There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: IT IS YOU”.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your centre changes. Your life changes when YOU change, YOU become soul /Super soul Conscious, when YOU go beyond your limiting beliefs.

If you want to live a Happy Life...

Your ability to set goals and make plans for their accomplishment is the “master skill” of success. The development of this ability and your making it a lifelong habit will do more to assure high success and achievement in your life than any other skill you can possibly learn.

As with anything, you only own the process of goal setting by learning it and then by applying it over and over for yourself until it becomes automatic, like breathing in and breathing out. Your goal must be to become a continuous goal setter. You must become so clear and focused about what it is you want that every single hour of every day you find yourself doing things that are moving you in the direction of your own choosing.

Here is a remarkable fact. Your intelligence is malleable over about 25 IQ points. That means that you can become smarter and smarter by working on your mental muscles just as you can become stronger and stronger by working on your physical muscles. And with clear, specific goals, that you are working toward every single day, you find yourself acting more and more intelligently in everything you do.

The good news is that you have an automatic, cybernetic, goal-achieving mechanism built into your brain. Human beings are the only creatures on earth that have this particular capacity. You automatically achieve the goals that you have set for yourself, whatever they are. This “success mechanism” works night and day, consciously and unconsciously and both drives you and motivates you toward achieving the things that you have decided that you want. It is almost like a light switch. Once you turn it on, it stays on until you do something to turn it off.

Here are my 6 steps to create YOUR mission statement:

1. Your mission statement is always written in the present tense, as though you have already become the person that you have described.

2. It is always positive rather than negative. And it is always personal.

3. Once you have developed a mission statement like this, you can read it, review it, edit it, and upgrade it regularly. You can add additional qualities to it and more clearly define the qualities you’ve already listed. It becomes your personal credo, your philosophy of life, your statement of beliefs and a guide to your behavior in all your interactions with others.

4. Each day, you can evaluate your behaviors and compare them against the standard that you have set in this statement.

5. Over time, a remarkable thing will happen. As you read and review your personal mission statement, you will find yourself, almost unconsciously, shaping your words and conforming your behaviors so that you are more and more like the ideal person you have defined. People will notice the change in you almost immediately.

6. Over time, you will find that you are actually creating within yourself the kind of character and personality that you most admire in others. You will have become the molder and the shaper of your own personal destiny.

Action Exercises

1. First, imagine that one of your customers was going to meet with one of your prospects. What would you want him to say about you? How could you behave with your customer to assure that he says these things?

2. Second, talk to yourself positively all the time. Feed your mind with positive messages that describe your goals and the person you want to be.

What is your personal mission statement? :)

WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN'T WE?

WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN'T WE? 

This is a true story that happened in Japan. 

In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan breaks open the wall. Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls. When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 5 years ago when the house was first built !!! What happened? 

The lizard has survived in such position for 5 years!!!!!!!!!! In a dark wall partition for 5 years without moving, it is impossible and mind-boggling. 

Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 5 years! without moving a single step--since its foot was nailed! So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating. Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth. Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply. For the lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 5 years... Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 5 long years, without giving up hope on its partner. 

Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can't. Please never abandon your loved ones Never Say U R Busy When They Really Need You ...
You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet..... But You Might Be The Only World To Them.... A Moment of negligence might break the very heart which loved you against all odds.. Before you say something just remember..it takes a moment to Break but an entire lifetime to make... :) 

25 AWESOME TIPS FOR BEAUTIFUL LIFE!!!

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. & while you walk, SMILE.
It is the ultimate antidepressant. 

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. When you wake up in the morning, Pray to ask God’s
guidance for your purpose, today.

4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food
that is manufactured in plants.

5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli, and almonds.

6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

7. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past,
negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a
college kid with a maxed out charge card.

9. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for
everything !

11. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

12. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

13. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.

14. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what
their journey is all about.

15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years,
will this matter?’

17. Help the needy, Be generous ! Be a ‘Giver’ not a ‘Taker’

18. What other people think of you is none of your business.

19. Time heals everything.

20. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

21. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your
friends will. Stay in touch.

22. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

23. Each night before you go to bed ,Pray to God and Be thankful
for what you’ll accomplish, today !

24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

25.Share this to everyone on your list to help them lead a happier
life…!!!! 

I am with you Darling..

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a Loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.

When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot about the open medicine bottle.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its colour and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine Meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

The husband just said "I am with you Darling." The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behaviour.

The Child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.

There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles Begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

Moral of the Story:
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.

UPS & DOWNS in our daily life...

Lets Learn not to be upset, for the material UPS & DOWNS in our daily life...

Because

UPS & DOWNS are vital part of life, without which existence of life is not possible...

Even when a straight line appears in the ECG machine, Doctor declares him /her as dead...

The same message Lord Krishna has given in Bhgavat Gita ... SAMATWAM YOGA UCHYATEY, To remain/behave equally in sad & happy moments is the highest form of Yoga...


"Yoga-sthah kuru karmani
sangam tyaktva dhananjaya
siddhy-asiddhyoh samo bhutva
samatvam yoga ucyate" (Bhagwat Gita: Chapter Two verse 48)" 

"Sri Krishna said to Arjuna: Perform your duty with an equipoise mind, abandoning all attachment to success or failure. Such equanimity is called Yoga." 

Jai Shree Krishna...

Towards a Fulfilling Happy & Prosperous life

Our never ending Desire & ever lasting  Expectations are the root cause of all sufferings... We cant abandon these urges, but at least can re-direct our DESIRES towards attaining ultimate peace & happiness in Lord's Lotus feet & STOP EXPECTING for anything from anyone Except from The All Merciful Almighty... This will surely eliminate our anxieties & lead us towards a Fulfilling happy & Prosperous  life... JSK... 

Two Worst Enemies in the path of your success

Just as self-discipline is the key to success, the lack of self-discipline is the major cause of failure, frustration, underachievement, and unhappiness in life. It causes us to make excuses and sell ourselves short.

Perhaps the Two biggest enemies of Success, Happiness and Personal fulfillment, are 

1. The Path of Least Resistance and 

2. The Expediency Factor.

The Path of Least Resistance is what causes people to take the easy way in almost every situation. 

They seek shortcuts to everything. They arrive at work at the last minute and leave at the first opportunity. They look for get-rich-quick schemes and easy money. 

Over time, they develop the habit of always seeking an easier, faster way to get the things they want rather than doing what is hard but necessary to achieve real success.

The Expediency Factor, which is an extension of the law of least resistance, is even worse when leading people to failure and underachievement. 

This principle says, most people do what is expedient, what is fun and easy rather than what is necessary for success. 

       Every day, and every minute of every day, there is a battle going on inside of you between doing what is right, hard, and necessary (like the angel on one shoulder) or doing what is fun, easy, and of little or no value (like the devil on your other shoulder). 

       Every minute of every day, you must fight and win this battle with the Expediency Factor and resist the pull of the Path of Least Resistance if you truly desire to become everything you are capable of becoming.

15 GREAT THOUGHTS BY CHANAKYA

15 GREAT THOUGHTS BY CHANAKYA

1) "Learn from the mistakes of others... you can't live long enough to make them all yourselves!!"

2)"A person should not be too honest. Straight trees are cut first and Honest people are screwed first."

3)"Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be venomous."

4)"There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no friendship without self-interests. This is a bitter truth."


5)" Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions - Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead."


6)"As soon as the fear approaches near, attack and destroy it."


7)"The world's biggest power is the youth and beauty of a woman."


8)"Once you start a working on something, don't be afraid of failure and don't abandon it. People who work sincerely are the happiest."


9)"The fragrance of flowers spreads only in the direction of the wind. But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction."


10)"God is not present in idols. Your feelings are your god. The soul is your temple."


11) "A man is great by deeds, not by birth."


12) "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. Such friendships will never give you any happiness."


13) "Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years. For the next five years, scold them. By the time they turn sixteen, treat them like a friend. Your grown up children are your best friends."


14) "Books are as useful to a stupid person as a mirror is useful to a blind person."


15) Education is the Best Friend. An Educated Person is Respected Everywhere. Education beats the Beauty and the Youth.

Together we can make a big difference to help our society to prosper

On this Auspicious occasion of Holi, I got the opportunity to contribute back to society in terms of FOOD for promoting EDUCATION, with the hope for making India prosperous by eradicating hunger & malnutrition. 

Though this small amount is very insignificant, if everyone of us decided to help then, these little drops could become an ocean soon & we can see the drastic progress very soon.

Thanks to Dell for giving us a platform for making donation to a genuine organisation (AkshayaPatra.org). 


It also accepts direct online donations for feeding poor school going children, i.e. Enabling Hunger free Education for nearly 1.3 million Children in India.

If anyone is interested to help in similar fashion or need any further information, please contact me without any hesitation. Together we can make a big difference...

Law of attraction - Rule 1

Give it a try at least for a week & share your views here... I am sure it will work like wonders, though there is no predefined rule for fixing the timeline. 

The Law of Attraction is very powerful :) JSK.

We are like teabags.

We are like teabags whose true strength comes out when put in hot water.

When problem approaches, just check your behavior... Be cautious & get the control back again, if its getting bitter. Our problems could be solved in the best way, by just being in our perfect temper, but not getting agitated...        Jai Shree Krishna :)

Live for today !!!

Learning to "Live for Today " is a challenge, but (s)he who inculcate this can bypass many more moments of unnecessary sufferings ( which generally come, just by pondering about future pains) !!! 

Indeed, Happiness is a journey, not a destination...

How to Win your Wife’s Heart :)

How to Win your Wife’s Heart

If your wife is still asleep when you have woken up, give her a gentle kiss on the forehead.

Watch your wife’s beauty secretly.


Whenever you have the opportunity, offer her a flower or a bouquet of flowers with a smile.

Rather than trying to satisfy her too much, feel and say that YOU are satisfied with her. Your own satisfaction will satisfy her.

Tell her twenty times a day, “I love you.” Send her SMS saying, “I love you.” If she says that she doesn’t believe you, tell her, “You have the right to disbelieve me, but I love you.”


On coming back home every time, give her a hug and a kiss on the forehead.

Tell her that
she looked really nice when she
was asleep last night.

Really feel that she was made for you – so you’re not only happy, but satisfied too; you’re not only satisfied, but proud too.

Feel that you have never seen anybody like her and let her know it.

Tell her, “I love you so much that I don’t want to see anybody else love you. Somebody who loves you more than I do simply doesn’t exist.”
Don’t look for her body. That’s already yours. Rather look for her mind. She’s looking for opportunities to offer it to you.

When she acts like
a child simply enjoy the beauty
of her frivolity.

Look her into the eyes and smile/

Respect her mother and father. And tell her to do so even if she doesn’t sometimes like them very much.

When you feel deep love for her ask her, “Have you cast spell on me? How can I remove you from my mind? I’ve tried but failed.” Saying that will make your love more real.

When you have the time play games with her. If you lose, ask her for a kiss. If you win, act like a child

 :)

Have immense faith in God & on His master plan

Once there was a sweeper in the Well Known temple and he was very sincere
and devoted. Every time he saw thousands of devotees coming to take darshan
of the Lord, he thought that the Lord is standing all the time and giving
darshan and He must be feeling very tired.


So one day very innocently he asked the Lord whether he can take the place
of the Lord for a day so that the Lord can have some relief and rest. The
Deity of Temple replied,"I do not mind taking a break. I will transform you
like Myself, but you must do one thing. You must just stand here like Me,
smile at everyone and just give benedictions. Do not interfere with anything
and do not say anything. Remember you are the deity and you just have faith
that I have a master plan for everything."The sweeper agreed to this.


The next day the sweeper took the position of the deity and a rich man came
and prayed to the Lord. He offered a nice donation and prayed that his
business should be prosperous. While going, the rich man inadvertently left
his wallet full of money right there. Now the sweeper in the form of deity
could not call him and so he decided to control himself and keep quiet.


Just then a poor man came and he put one coin in the Hundi and said that it
was all he could afford and he prayed to the Lord that he should continue to
be engaged in the Lord's service. He also said that his family was in dire
need of some basic needs but he left it to the good hands of the Lord to
give some solution. When he opened his eyes, he saw the wallet left by the
rich man. The poor man thanked the Lord for His kindness and took the wallet
very innocently. The sweeper in the form of the Deity could not say anything
and he had to just keep smiling.


At that point a sailor walked in. He prayed for his safe journey as he was
going on a long trip. Just then the rich man came with the police and said
that somebody has stolen his wallet and seeing the sailor there, he asked
the police to arrest him thinking that he might have taken it. Now the
sweeper in the form of Deity wanted to say that the sailor is not the thief
and he could not say and he was greatly frustrated. The sailor looked at the
Lord and asked why he an innocent person is being punished. The rich man
looked at the Lord and thanked Him for finding the thief. The sweeper in the
deity form could no more tolerate and he thought that even if the real Lord
had been here, he would have definitely interfered and hence he started
speaking and said that the sailor is not the thief but it was the poor man
who took away the wallet. The rich man was very thankful as also the sailor.


In the night, the real Lord came and He asked the sweeper how the day was.
The sweeper said,"I thought it would be easy, but now I know that Your days
are not easy, but I did one good thing."Then he explained the whole episode
to the Lord. The Lord became very upset on hearing this whereas the sweeper
thought the Lord would appreciate him for the good deed done.


The Lord asked,"Why did you not just stick to the plan? You had no faith in
Me. Do you think that I do not understand the hearts of all those who come
here? All the donation which the rich man gave was all stolen money and it
is only a fraction of what he really has and he wants Me to reciprocate
unlimitedly. The single coin offered by the poor man was the last coin he
was having and he gave it to Me out of faith. The sailor might not have done
anything wrong, but if the sailor were to go in the ship that night he was
about to die because of bad weather and instead if he is arrested he would
be in the jail and he would have been saved form a greater calamity. The
wallet should go to the poor man because he will use it in My service. I was
going to reduce the rich man's karma also by doing this and save the sailor
also. But you cancelled everything because you thought you know My plan and
you made your own plans."


God has plans and justice for everyone,we just need to have
patience.


Do Good And Receive Good.
God Bless you all.

What is Maturity?

Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. 


Maturity is to have patience. 


Maturity is the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of the long-term gain. 


Maturity is perseverance, the ability to sweat out a project or a situation in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging set-backs.


Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint or collapse.


Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say, "I was wrong." And, when right, the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying, "I told you so."


Maturity is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. The immature spend their lives exploring endless possibilities; then they do nothing. 


Maturity is the art of living in peace with that which we cannot change, the courage to change that which should be changed -- and the wisdom to know the difference.

A short but amazing film demonstrating wonderful ways for building an never ending relationship

One of the best video I ve ever seen on simple tips for building better relationship among any loving couples... Thanks for making such a wonderful short movie!!!


Now...lets try to follow by remembering on each such situation of life... :)

Philosophy of Wellness

Philosophy of Wellness
(Prof. Dr. Madhavan – Bangalore 98860 67232)

1. Health is one; but diseases are many.
2. People heal themselves with their own mind.
3. A belief that “nothing is impossible” itself is a powerful mind.
4. The body is not a problem; it is a part of the solution.
5. Illness is a message to redirect, recollect and restore your life.
6. There is no disease that does not have the potential to be cured
7. Every cell knows exactly, how to heal.
8. Cure is sure when faith is pure.
9. Diseases come & go; but health always remains.
10. Healing is divine. Body itself make better medicines.
11.Health is personal. Take personal responsibility. Don’t let others handle it.
12.In health, role of body is 20%, rest 80% comes from the mind.
13.Food is living medicine; Medicine is dead food.
14.Healing, holy, holistic - words, all have the same root.
15.Medicine and Meditation also come from the same root.

Remember the 9P’s for Effective Time Management

Please remember the 9P’s J!

Skills to practice- Plan Prioritize Perform

Behaviors to develop- Persuade Persevere Proactive

Behaviors to Unlearn- Procrastination Perfectionism Paralysis

Some Tips for Effective Personal Time Management

·         Spend time planning & organizing

·         Set Goals - In written

·         Use a to do list

·         Prioritize (In To Do list)

·         Be flexible

·         Consider  - biological prime time

·         Eliminate the urgent - Plan well ahead

·         Practice “Art of intelligent neglect”

·         Avoid being a perfectionist

·         Conquer procrastination

·         Learn to say "no"

·         Reward yourself

La  

La  Last but not least, Pray Lord Krishna for helping us to follow these rules with complete dedication & unflinching determination. With His mercy everything is possible. JSK :)